Don’t let life events define you.
I want my children to know this, to their bone marrow. You don’t have to be defined by things outside yourself—other people, events, issues, traumas, tragedies, even family. You get to choose how to define yourself. You have the right to choose your path, your attitude. Just because the “research” says some postulation, doesn’t mean you are that result.
Push off small minded conjecture.
Ignore conventional wisdom and speculation.
Never let life define you; define your own life.